It is one of life’s many ironies that you, the divorcing parent, are called upon to be the best parent you possibly can be at a time in your life when you are the most stressed and feeling under siege. There will be times when you will fail with your children by losing your temper, over-reacting, brushing off a child who needs lots of extra attention when you are exhausted, etc.
If you really “lose it” with your child, apologize. Then forgive yourself. You will recover and so will your child. Here are a few guidelines that may be helpful to you as you move through the divorce process:I
Mediation allows you to develop and practice the skills of co-parenting during the divorce mediation process. You will be a co-parent with your spouse for years beyond your children’s eighteenth birthdays.
You have a lot of control over the amount of harm your children will endure because of your divorce. Research shows that it isn’t so much the divorce itself that injures children but rather the amount of the conflict and anger that surrounds the divorce that is so harmful to children.
You and your spouse can determine a lot about the long-term consequences of the divorce for your children by what you say and do. The confusion, anger, sadness and fear that many children feel can be dramatically reduced when you as parents: